It's 2016. Our relationship is coming to 4 years. My good friend in Taiwan is celebrating his 11th years with his bf. It's rare for gay couples to have relationship that long but it does happen.
For my friend who is in his 11th years, I must say, the Taiwanese are the most open minded in thinking than many Singaporeans, including myself. I met my Taiwanese friends in Bangkok back in 2000 while I was working there and he was there nursing a heartache as he had just broken off a 4 year relationship.
We did not meet again until 2003 when I went Bangkok with my then ex. We met by chance while I was going up to take the train at Saladang, while he was walking down. My ex noticed that he was staring at me and told me and I took a glance and thought he looked familiar but can't recall his name. I searched my phone and called him and he answered that he is now in Bangkok and we just pass each other. I invited him to join us and we enjoyed our little get away holiday.
Our friendship bonded during that trip and we became close friends after that. I would visit him in Taipei the next year with my ex and he introduced his then new boy friend to us. Back in 2004, he was only dating this guy and he had said they would try out the relationship and now, fast forward today, they are celebrating their 11th Anniversary.
My Taiwanese friend had, during his 11 year relationship been in 2 multiple partners relationship. One was with another couple about 4 years ago. Although that relationship lasted about a year plus. they are still friends. They broke off because one of the other couple was a tad too childish and selfish.
The last time I met my Taiwanese friend was a few months ago and also in Bangkok with my current bf and he brought along another guy whom had agreed to be the 3rd person in his current relationship with the agreement from my friend's boyfriend. We had a great time together enjoying good food, massages, and shopping.
We can tell that the new bf really love my friend from all the little action he did and I am really happy for my friend to find someone like him. My friend is not a hunk but he is certainly the most intelligent, charming and talented person one can have as a friend. I am always amaze by the fact that he is able to manage a relationship with multiple partners and that he is able to talk and make sense whenever there is any dispute or argument and he is the best person I would go to to get answers for relationship issues.
Its really not easy to be in a relationship for gay couple, and its even harder to have a relationship that can last more than 11 year. The difficulty level multiplies when you have a 3 or 4 person relationship. It's not impossible but possible and my Taiwanese friend is proof that it is possible. Kudos to him.
As for me, I am very happy to be with my current bf of about 4 years although we might have a 26 year age gap. So, basically, nothing is really impossible for a relationship to work, its just whether you want to make it work or not.
